At times we behave very emotionally undevelopped rather juvenile who is not ready to understand that he/she could be wrong. The intensity of immaturity is such that any possibility of making a mistake is not even close....and one assumes "O I am so perfect".
So this person is damn arrogant and this arrogance does not go away untill he/she experiences humility or some kind of meeknes or situational lowliness through real-life experiences. It is a very interesting human behavior, where people when defensive they stop learning and start hurting themselves.
Some thoughtful person once said...The process of learning starts with the phrase "I don't know" and it stops at "I know"....so when a person during the criticism keeps saying "I know"...the argument should be dropped right there...assuming the listener is not ready to learn...
With this bulge of fake assumptions in a small brain, we tend to brake every wall of criticism that faces us assuming we are so good, yet not realizing that the criticism may be useful for the future encounter of this situation and may be there is something to learn there.
Another part of over confidence that relates an over confident person to ignorence is "forgetting" what to talk. An overconfident person is like an intoxicated dimwit who doesnt know what he is talking about....and he/she would just try to prove the point regardless......this is quite ignorant....people who have this problem go through embarassment manytimes in life before they actually learn something, which is miserable. I have seen a couple of them personally too....
What can I say more...blindfolded...assuming the storm is not coming....assuming they have not made any mistake...and even if they know they made a mistake, they wont listen to themselves....assuming everything is hunky dory in life....not showing the relaity to the world...just living a fake life......all of this come with this overconfidence..... and ignorance.
usually these kind of people dont know how to communicate impressively.
Saturday, January 19, 2008
Friday, January 18, 2008
Too many cooks
Last night I was watching a program on Muharram on Geo TV. A clerik was addressing to people, and people were praising him for saying things that they like.
The challenge is that few hours later another clerik was addressing to same kind of gathering...and posing the same event in a slightly different fashion...while a few days ago I saw some other clerik doing the same thing.
I sometime feel that Islam has been hijacked..........and I feel nervous and confused when I see all these people who have so much to say, and each individual has his own set of details.
Some of the details you hear from them is in the fictional form where they tell a story, and in some cases a person "wonder" how do you know that in the stroy "certain" character made that posture...how do u know the exact details of event happening centuries ago so precisely that you can actually tell the postures of a character in that narration. I doubt if it is possible in today's world when we have all these media and info revolutions....these kind of details are always lost.
Also...now there are so many cleriks that it is very difficult to get one point of view, and everyone interprets things differently; which one is right? How do I know?
Similarly you go to one mosque; they have a different opinion; you go to another, they look at things from a different lens and it goes on......
Some of the mosques backhome announce the hatered against the other sects; and everyone seems to claim that "they" are the righteous.....I dont want to expand this narration by involving christianity here as well...although i believe they have the same issues...for example if we compare Orthodox church, catholic church, and Latter Day Saint (Mormon) Church....in individuality they claim they have the truth...but each one claims the other two are wrong.....
What do you do in this situation?
It is a mess.....and at least among the scholars no one seems to be solving this issue......no one seems to understand how a "layman" /"common person" who doesn carry a bulk load of religious info may get confused.....like I am!
IF you ask me....I have no clue what is going on...and I am lost.......
The challenge is that few hours later another clerik was addressing to same kind of gathering...and posing the same event in a slightly different fashion...while a few days ago I saw some other clerik doing the same thing.
I sometime feel that Islam has been hijacked..........and I feel nervous and confused when I see all these people who have so much to say, and each individual has his own set of details.
Some of the details you hear from them is in the fictional form where they tell a story, and in some cases a person "wonder" how do you know that in the stroy "certain" character made that posture...how do u know the exact details of event happening centuries ago so precisely that you can actually tell the postures of a character in that narration. I doubt if it is possible in today's world when we have all these media and info revolutions....these kind of details are always lost.
Also...now there are so many cleriks that it is very difficult to get one point of view, and everyone interprets things differently; which one is right? How do I know?
Similarly you go to one mosque; they have a different opinion; you go to another, they look at things from a different lens and it goes on......
Some of the mosques backhome announce the hatered against the other sects; and everyone seems to claim that "they" are the righteous.....I dont want to expand this narration by involving christianity here as well...although i believe they have the same issues...for example if we compare Orthodox church, catholic church, and Latter Day Saint (Mormon) Church....in individuality they claim they have the truth...but each one claims the other two are wrong.....
What do you do in this situation?
It is a mess.....and at least among the scholars no one seems to be solving this issue......no one seems to understand how a "layman" /"common person" who doesn carry a bulk load of religious info may get confused.....like I am!
IF you ask me....I have no clue what is going on...and I am lost.......
blindfolded and dangerous
Another truth about life is the "false-assumptions" of young generation in Pakistan on how good "parents" we are or will be, and how our parents dont understand us.
When it comes to our friends, friends of the friends, our relatives, our spouse and his/her relatives and many other people who really dont know the "real-inside" of us; "we" pose nice, and get all the praises possible for perfectly nice behavior.
When it comes to our parents or spouses' parents who took care of their kids while they were not even able to move a fly from the nose; we consider them the worst thing happen to us....in some cases we are not happy to introduce them to others as our parents....how pathetic and rediculous this behavior is?
Those who do that shall see that coming in their old age soon, and it will be too late to undo.
When it comes to our friends, friends of the friends, our relatives, our spouse and his/her relatives and many other people who really dont know the "real-inside" of us; "we" pose nice, and get all the praises possible for perfectly nice behavior.
When it comes to our parents or spouses' parents who took care of their kids while they were not even able to move a fly from the nose; we consider them the worst thing happen to us....in some cases we are not happy to introduce them to others as our parents....how pathetic and rediculous this behavior is?
Those who do that shall see that coming in their old age soon, and it will be too late to undo.
Thursday, January 17, 2008
The Chess Board of Life
Kya Bashar Kee Bisaat -- Aaj hae kal nahee
At times it is frustrating to see people behaving selfish despite knowing they are here for short period of time. I dont know what to do with that. I guess I am too simple to be political or mean.
You help some body, and that somebody starts using you--a point comes where you feel threatened. Yet the same person who you helped once, turns against you once he/she is in power forgetting everything. Not that I would help somebody with the expectation of returns in mind. But it is so difficult to digest.
People have different perceptions about life. For example some people are always curious about "What I am wearing", Why I have been wearing some shirt time and again", "Why my shoes are worn off", and "Why have I not changed my car yet", or "making a display of how rich they are", or " how successful they are in career, and yet others are not"....when they themselvesdoes not know how to treat people with respect regardless of what they are wearing, and regardless of what their financial status is?
I feel miserable in the company of such people...no matter how hard you try....these kind of folks simply wont change....no matter what?
When it comes to life...i think it is delicate. My personal experience is that choices you make in life impact your life. People take it forgranted---and at the time of making choices do not realize what will they bring to them. I think for young generation it is something to ponder. A right choice made at a right time saves you from many problems in future. Choices could be troublesome in anything. For example, " A choice of leaving your home, and traveling oceans length away to seek better future"......well..it sounds very interesting...but it may bring many unnecessary things to your life....if you move to a place which is a melting pot...where you yourslef has melted a bit...what happens with your generations...if they keep inheriting this gradual melting...what happens after two three generations...would they even have the "faith" you follow...and the question is how important is it for you that they keep same faith? Another question is what is the guarantee they will follow your faith anywhere else?
All of these things are quite complicated...and I am still struggling to understand them? I think people are very politically motivated...and I am too neive for any politics..
Kya Bashar Kee Bisaat -- Aaj hae kal nahee
At times it is frustrating to see people behaving selfish despite knowing they are here for short period of time. I dont know what to do with that. I guess I am too simple to be political or mean.
You help some body, and that somebody starts using you--a point comes where you feel threatened. Yet the same person who you helped once, turns against you once he/she is in power forgetting everything. Not that I would help somebody with the expectation of returns in mind. But it is so difficult to digest.
People have different perceptions about life. For example some people are always curious about "What I am wearing", Why I have been wearing some shirt time and again", "Why my shoes are worn off", and "Why have I not changed my car yet", or "making a display of how rich they are", or " how successful they are in career, and yet others are not"....when they themselvesdoes not know how to treat people with respect regardless of what they are wearing, and regardless of what their financial status is?
I feel miserable in the company of such people...no matter how hard you try....these kind of folks simply wont change....no matter what?
When it comes to life...i think it is delicate. My personal experience is that choices you make in life impact your life. People take it forgranted---and at the time of making choices do not realize what will they bring to them. I think for young generation it is something to ponder. A right choice made at a right time saves you from many problems in future. Choices could be troublesome in anything. For example, " A choice of leaving your home, and traveling oceans length away to seek better future"......well..it sounds very interesting...but it may bring many unnecessary things to your life....if you move to a place which is a melting pot...where you yourslef has melted a bit...what happens with your generations...if they keep inheriting this gradual melting...what happens after two three generations...would they even have the "faith" you follow...and the question is how important is it for you that they keep same faith? Another question is what is the guarantee they will follow your faith anywhere else?
All of these things are quite complicated...and I am still struggling to understand them? I think people are very politically motivated...and I am too neive for any politics..
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